7 years later...

You know those ex's who always try and get their foot in the door. You see an email or text from them and your heart skips a beat, *swoon*, then eyes glaze over and you make bad decisions.

Luckily for me, this time I didn't go through the usual motions.

Got an email from Bob. He wanted to see how I was doing and let me know of his new phone number and that he had moved. Wished me well. This was pretty standard behavior, so I wasn't totally shocked.
I texted and said "Wow! Could we really be single at the same time?!"

To which he replied something along the lines of... "You should come visit me this weekend, jump in your car!"

Thankfully, I had Pilates and needed to go to that and thus postponed my departure till after (yes I considered going). We texted back and forth a bit. I asked about his ex:

"So are you still with ****?"
"No I'm with another girl, her name is ****! Funny huh?"
"Well well well, so where is she this weekend?"
"She's in Chicago, is that OK?"

Um no Bob... that is NOT ok. *eyeroll*

I pretty much said I was going to buy a juicer and wanted to hang out with my cats instead of driving to see him. You would think that stating normal activities being my top choice would have been a clear "No I don't want to see you" message.

He continued texting me for about 2 hours, with no responses from me. The last transmission that night was "I can't believe you would blow me off like that. Night. Sorry if my texts were bothering you"

*crickets*

Did I really fall into that manipulative behavior for so many years? I felt good realizing that. And laughed ABSURDLY loud the next day when I got this... "Hope you had a relaxing night last night. How's your day today?"

Sigh. Some people never change. I'm so glad that I have!